Sunbonnet Soliloquy

By Jewell Ellen Smith

 

A Wife’s Advice

 

Long ago, and far away, on one of the islands in the seven seas, there lived a people who told a strange myth about creation.

Well, actually, it wasn’t as strange as it was funny.

This primitive story had been fabricated to try to explain how man came to be on earth and why every man is not a genius.  What is even more fascinating, it tells how it came about that women were put here!

The legend the island people told goes this way:

One day the younger gods were in a joyful mood and floated down to earth to play games.  And when they ran out of their usual stock of games, they decided to make something--something new, something unusual, novel.

After a bit of discussion among themselves--and without consulting the older and wiser gods--the group of young gods made five men.  One was yellow, one was brown, one was black, one was red, and one was white.

It was fun to the young gods to watch the men run about.  They, too, liked to play.  They laughed a lot.  Their hearts seemed as light as the fluffy clouds in the sky.  In fact, the youngest of the young gods who was in charge of making the men’s hearts confided later that he had poked a wad of cloud fluff into each heart.

Before the day was over, though, the young creators realized they had made a mistake, for when they got ready to go back up to heaven, the men wanted to go with them.  What was even worse, the young gods discovered that these newly created fellows were as smart as they were.

“Good grief!” cried the young gods to each other.  “What’ll we do with these creatures?”

“I’ll go up to heaven and ask the older and wiser gods what to do,” volunteered the young god who had stuffed all five hearts with cloud fluff.

So he flew up to heaven and was back in less than three minutes-all smiles.

He gathered all the other young gods around him and whispered, very softly, so that the five men could not hear, “All we’ve got to do is put ‘em to sleep, open up their heads, and take out a little bit of their brains!”

“Of course!” said the other young gods.

And that’s what they did.  But, when the men waked up, the young gods notices that they were sad and dejected, long of face, little interested in going to heaven or anywhere else.  And, they were not even half as smart as the gods.

“Good grief!” cried the young volunteer who had just returned from heaven.  “We’ve overdone it! I’ll zip back up and ask the older gods how to remedy this!”

“Yeah,” said the other young gods, “we can’t leave these poor wretches in this condition!”

The volunteer was soon back from heaven--all smiles.

“It’s simple!” he whispered.  “The wise gods say that the thing to do is to give each man a wife--to compensate for the brains we took away.”

“Sure!” cried the other young gods, much relieved that their mistake could be corrected.  “That’s what we’ll do.”

So they made five beautiful women -- m five colors, of course -- and presented them as wives to the five rather bewildered, but delighted, men.  This accomplished, the young gods zoomed back up to heaven -- all smiles.

And after that, all the islands in the seven seas and all the rest of the world besides became filled with the children and grandchildren and ever-so-great grandchildren of the five men and their wives.

Do your dare read this myth to your husband?

Would he holler out “That was a mean, low-down trick the gods played on us poor men!”?

Or, would he murmur “Sweetheart, those old gods sure knew what they were doing!  What would a stupid guy like me do if he didn’t have a sweet, beautiful, smart wife like you?”

(I wouldn’t dare read it to [husband] Smitty! I know what he would yell!)

Seriously, life is a complicated business.

And it takes the best judgment that both a man and his wife can muster to be able to cope with its problems.

Through the ages, countless women have offered advice to their husbands-- some of it good, some not so good.  See what you think of the following true stories of three wives who volunteered advice to their husbands during extremely critical times.

 

The Advice of Job’s Wife

First, there was Job’s wife. Job was the greatest and richest man in all the land of Uz. (A part of northern Arabia.)  But during the height of his wonderful life calamity came.

Job lost everything--his seven sons and three daughters, his seven thousand sheep, his three thousand camels, his five hundred yoke of oxen, his five hundred she asses, and his very great household of servants.

To top that off, Job was stricken with a dread disease that left his whole body covered with sores.

One day as Job sat on an ash heap and mourned, his wife said, “Job, you ought to curse God, and die!”

Job paid her no attention. His only comment was “Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh!”

End of Job’s story is that he regained his health, his wealth--everything.  The Bible says “the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.”

 

The Advice of Pontius Pilate’s Wife

Second, there was Claudia Procula, the wife of Pontius Pilate.

On the morning that Jesus the Christ stood before Pontius Pilate, even as Pilate was sitting on the “Judgment seat”--and the mob out in the Jerusalem street was screaming “Crucify him! Crucify him!“--Claudia Procula sent her husband this urgent message:

“Have thou nothing to do with that just man: for I have suffered many things this day in a dream because of him!”

Pilate ignored his wife’s plea. He ordered the crucifixion, and it was carried out.

Nobody is quite sure about the end of Pilate’s story.  His administration as Roman governor in Judea ended abruptly.  Some records indicate that he was banished to what is now southern France and eventually committed suicide.

 

The Advice of the Wife of King Clovis

Third, there was the wife of the able, crafty and cruel Clovis, king of the Franks, who lived from 481 to 511 A.D.

When Clovis first became king, at the age of sixteen, the Franks worshiped the old gods of the Teutons, Woden and Thor and Tyr.

Some years later, though, as Clovis was leading his warriors in a fierce, bloody battle against some neighboring Teutons, he saw the enemy begin to drive his Franks from the field.  He prayed loudly to the old gods, but still his troops gave way.

“Then,” records one historian, “Clovis bethought him that his wife Clitilda had long been urging him to give up his old gods and become a Christian. He determined now to try the God of his wife...’O Christ Jesus, (he prayed) I beseech Thee for aid!  If Thou wilt grant me victory over these enemies, I will believe in Thee and be Baptized in Thy Name!’”

End of the Clovis story is that the Franks won the battle. Clovis became a Christian. His warriors followed his example. And, in time, the people of the whole region that is now France turned to Christianity--all as a result of Clotilda’s advice to Clovis.

The end of this piece about creation and about wives giving advice to their husbands is this:

Read your husband the myth about men being a bit lacking in brains, if you think it will amuse him.

And always--in critical times and normal times--offer your husband your best thoughts.  Whether he follows your advice is a different matter, a matter for him to decide.

 

Published September 1981.  Click your browser’s ‘Back’ key to return.